DISCOVER SPECIALIZED THERAPY FOR MEN IN CHICO, CA
Do these sound like you?
"I'm not going to repeat the mistakes my Dad made..."
"My partner and I are completely disconnected..."
"I Don't understand why I feel so overwhelmed..."
Common Challenges Men Overcome with Therapy:
Self-Understanding:
Fear of Disappointing Others
Self-Understanding:
You were likely given "mad, sad, and glad" as your emotional vocabulary growing up. And, that's not cutting it. You know you've got a lot more going on inside then that...
but your lack of emotional tools and vocabulary leaves you feeling disconnected from yourself.
Relating to Others
Fear of Disappointing Others
Self-Understanding:
And, if you can't quite explain what's going on inside of you, how are you supposed to convey who you really are and what you really feel to your partner, friends, and family.
So now you're disconnected from yourself and the people you love.
Fear of Disappointing Others
Fear of Disappointing Others
Fear of Disappointing Others
So, if you can't really connect, you bust your ass to meet every expectation thats placed on you.
80hr weeks. Never saying no. Exhausted but you've got to keep going....
You know the drill.
Sense of Inadequacy
Lack of Personal Direction
Fear of Disappointing Others
Which leads you to feeling like you're never enough. There isn't enough of you to meet every need. "You're never present enough". "You're working all the time." "You're always on your phone." "Even when you're here, you're not really here."
Sound familiar?
Lack of Personal Direction
Lack of Personal Direction
Lack of Personal Direction
And, now you're torn in two.
What they need and what you want feel like polar opposites.
And, I've got to meet their needs. They're counting on me. They rely on me.
So that's it then? I just become a thing that meets other people's needs?
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Learn More about What I offer and How Therapy Works!
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT:
- Guy-Friendly Environment: A space where you feel at-home, understood and supported.
- Problem-Solving Focus: We target the issues at hand with practical solutions.
- Action-Oriented Approach: We believe in taking concrete steps to improve your situation.
- Conversational Style: Our sessions are direct, goal-focused, and feel like a meaningful conversation.
IMAGINE IF YOUR DAD HAD MADE THE CHOICE TO GET HELP...
Men’s counseling is like having a deep conversation
with a good friend in your living room.
Only this friend is a professional who understands
your struggles and provides practical advice that works.
I'm Tommy, and I can help you.
You can change, grow, and improve.
I believe in you and your ability to change. And, I can help you.
I provide therapy for men just like you. I use a practical and down to earth approach to therapy.
A lot of therapists don't specialize.
The result: You don't get a specialized approach to your problems.
I specialize in working with men.
Everything I do focuses on getting men back on their feet and providing real, tangible solutions to the problems that they face.
And, I work with tons of guys. Most of them are a lot like you.
The result:
You get specialized, proven and tested solutions to the problems that you face.
You deserve answers and solutions that are specialized to you.
Don't settle for less.
What I offer:
These are common goals and topics of the therapy I provide.
Relationships
Personalized support and guidance to address issues that are holding your relationship back. This isn't couples counseling. This is a deep-dive into how you can be the best partner you can be.
Insight and Self-Understanding
This approach is designed to help you safely, and honestly understand yourself in deeper more nuanced way. You'll get answers about why you act the way you do, and what you can do to change it.
Depression
Depression effects men differently. It's not always sad, and trouble getting out of bed. Often it's anger, frustration, and restlessness.
Depression Therapy helps you manage depression by identifying causes and teaching coping strategies.
Attachement
Learn your attachment style - the template you have from your early experiences, how it has impacted your relationships, and how to heal and move forward. Run in to the same fights with your partner? Same struggles with your patterns before this one?
Attachment Therapy gives your answers and what to do about it.
Boundaries and Healthy Relationships
Lack of boundaries lead to fear of disappointing others, feelings of inadequacy, and lack of personal direction. Lack of boundaries leaves you exhausted, frustrated, and stuck.
We'll address all these things and help you find a new sense of balance.
Resolute Men: Group and one-on-One Coaching
RESOLUTE is a 6-week program with fast, & actionable daily skill-building lessons for men who want to understand themselves better, improve communication with their loved ones, and navigate stress and adversity more gracefully.
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Start Your Journey to Mental Wellness
1: Schedule a Free consultation
I'll answer any questions you have and you can be sure we're a good fit
2: Schedule an initial in-Person or Telehealth session with me
Intake Paperwork is emailed to you. You create a login, fill out the forms and you're ready to go!
3: We'll do weekly sessions for a few weeks to establish your goals...
and start reaching them!
4: Start to enjoy the payoff of understanding yourself and learning the tools that help you thrive
Your goals will be met and you'll get a customized plan for how you can maintain your growth and progress.
"When I feel angry now I have really tried to understand the core feelings behind it, using the tools I learned during the program. It has helped me remain calmer and try to logically think through emotional responses to stressors."
J.N - 39 y.o Male, Financial Institutions Consultant
Success Stories from Our Chico, CA Clients
"The coaching sessions actually exceeded almost all my expectations. Again the anecdotal stories and examples really enhanced my experience and success in not only understanding the strategies but applying them to my situations and behaviors."
"I wanted to share that there was so much value in your stories and personal thoughts in our coaching meetings. It really helped me to feel less alone and less afraid to own many of the feelings or thoughts I had. Often we fear admitting parts of our thoughts because they seem dark, negative or fearful and it was so freeing to hear those
"I wanted to share that there was so much value in your stories and personal thoughts in our coaching meetings. It really helped me to feel less alone and less afraid to own many of the feelings or thoughts I had. Often we fear admitting parts of our thoughts because they seem dark, negative or fearful and it was so freeing to hear those things come from someone else that it helped to be allowed to admit those things to myself."
You can change. You deserve it. And, so do the people you love!
Picture your partner looking at you:
"Wow! He didn't bottle it up this time, he just talked through it."
"He didn't try to fix me, he just listened and supported me!"
"He stood up for himself but was gentle and kind about it."
These don't have to be made-up scenarios that she dreams about. These can and will be you!
Start today!
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