You were likely given "mad, sad, and glad" as your emotional vocabulary growing up. And, that's not cutting it. You know you've got a lot more going on inside then that...
but your lack of emotional tools and vocabulary leaves you feeling disconnected from yourself.
And, if you can't quite explain what's going on inside of you, how are you supposed to convey who you really are and what you really feel to your partner, friends, and family.
So now you're disconnected from yourself and the people you love.
So, if you can't really connect, you bust your ass to meet every expectation thats placed on you.
80hr weeks. Never saying no. Exhausted but you've got to keep going....
You know the drill.
Which leads you to feeling like you're never enough. There isn't enough of you to meet every need. "You're never present enough". "You're working all the time." "You're always on your phone." "Even when you're here, you're not really here."
Sound familiar?
And, now you're torn in two.
What they need and what you want feel like polar opposites.
And, I've got to meet their needs. They're counting on me. They rely on me.
So that's it then? I just become a thing that meets other people's needs?
Maybe your wife has suggested it (I know how these conversations go), but you're still on the fence.
So what kind of things do men work on? What do they talk about?
Great questions! Here are some resources to help!
Already know you need therapy but feeling unsure about what it involves?
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Learn about the therapy process, what happens during sessions, and how my personalized approach can support your mental health journey. I aim to make you feel comfortable and informed every step of the way.
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- Problem-Solving Focus: We target the issues at hand with practical solutions.
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Men’s counseling is like having a deep conversation
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Only this friend is a professional who understands
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You can change, grow, and improve.
I believe in you and your ability to change. And, I can help you.
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A lot of therapists don't specialize.
The result: You don't get a specialized approach to your problems.
I specialize in working with men.
Everything I do focuses on getting men back on their feet and providing real, tangible solutions to the problems that they face.
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The result:
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Don't settle for less.
These are common goals and topics of the therapy I provide.
Personalized support and guidance to address issues that are holding your relationship back. This isn't couples counseling. This is a deep-dive into how you can be the best partner you can be.
This approach is designed to help you safely, and honestly understand yourself in deeper more nuanced way. You'll get answers about why you act the way you do, and what you can do to change it.
Depression effects men differently. It's not always sad, and trouble getting out of bed. Often it's anger, frustration, and restlessness.
Depression Therapy helps you manage depression by identifying causes and teaching coping strategies.
Learn your attachment style - the template you have from your early experiences, how it has impacted your relationships, and how to heal and move forward. Run in to the same fights with your partner? Same struggles with your patterns before this one?
Attachment Therapy gives your answers and what to do about it.
Lack of boundaries lead to fear of disappointing others, feelings of inadequacy, and lack of personal direction. Lack of boundaries leaves you exhausted, frustrated, and stuck.
We'll address all these things and help you find a new sense of balance.
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and start reaching them!
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"I wanted to share that there was so much value in your stories and personal thoughts in our coaching meetings. It really helped me to feel less alone and less afraid to own many of the feelings or thoughts I had. Often we fear admitting parts of our thoughts because they seem dark, negative or fearful and it was so freeing to hear those
"I wanted to share that there was so much value in your stories and personal thoughts in our coaching meetings. It really helped me to feel less alone and less afraid to own many of the feelings or thoughts I had. Often we fear admitting parts of our thoughts because they seem dark, negative or fearful and it was so freeing to hear those things come from someone else that it helped to be allowed to admit those things to myself."
Picture your partner looking at you:
"Wow! He didn't bottle it up this time, he just talked through it."
"He didn't try to fix me, he just listened and supported me!"
"He stood up for himself but was gentle and kind about it."
These don't have to be made-up scenarios that she dreams about. These can and will be you!
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