Therapy for Men Who Want More from Life.
Personalized Counseling and Coaching for Men in Chico, Ca and Online throughout California.
let’s be honest:
You're holding it together, but it's getting harder.
It doesn’t help that you’ve been told to just push through it, man up, or figure it out on your own—but that hasn’t worked. Instead, you’re stuck in the same cycles, overthinking everything, second-guessing yourself, or avoiding it altogether.
You don’t have to keep living like this. Let’s get to the bottom of it.
Does this sound familiar?
You're determined not to repeat the mistakes your father made.
Imagine breaking free from those patterns and forging your own path.
You want to feel connected to your partner but it’s just not working.
How good would it feel to have open communication leading to a deeper bond?
You want more from your life and relationships but you don’t know how to change course.
Clarity and direction, leading to fulfilling connections are not as far off as you think.
I’m Tommy Mattera,
I believe you don’t have to do it all on your own.
Let me help!
I specialize in working with men, providing practical and down-to-earth therapy tailored to your unique experiences and challenges. My approach respects your perspective while offering effective strategies that resonate with your life circumstances.
My clients consistently leave therapy feeling more connected to themselves and others, truly understood, and equipped with tangible solutions to confidently navigate life's challenges. Through our work together, you'll develop sustainable skills that support lasting positive change in both your personal and professional life.
Whether you're facing career pressures, relationship difficulties, identity questions, or simply feel stuck, my collaborative approach creates a judgment-free space where we can address these issues head-on. I understand the specific cultural and societal expectations men often face, and together we'll work through these complexities to help you achieve greater authenticity, purpose, and fulfillment.
“I think the most valuable thing I learned was that anger was a defensive/protective response typically as a way to protect oneself from the other emotions they were feeling.
When I feel angry now I have really tried to understand the core feelings behind it, using the tools I learned during working with Tommy. It has helped me remain calmer and try to logically think through emotional responses to stressors.
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You’re carrying a lot, and it’s getting heavier. Whether it’s stress, anger, or feeling completely numb, you don’t have to figure it out alone. You’ve been told to just push through, but that’s not working anymore.
Therapy gives you a space to cut through the noise, make sense of what’s going on, and start feeling like yourself again.
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You’re trained to handle high-pressure situations, but that doesn’t mean the weight disappears. Therapy built for those who serve—no BS, no judgment, just real support. You don’t have time for fluff or someone who doesn’t understand the job.
Whether it’s the stress of the work, what it’s doing to your relationships, or just needing a place to unload, this is a space built for you.
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Fatherhood changes everything—whether you’re figuring it out for the first time or trying to balance the demands of being a dad with everything else in your life. It’s exciting, exhausting, and sometimes overwhelming. No one really prepares you for how much your life shifts—your relationships, your sense of self, and the expectations (yours and everyone else’s).
Whether you're adjusting to life with a newborn, feeling distant from your partner, or just trying to manage the stress, therapy helps you find your footing and feel more confident in your role.
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Your partner has encouraged you to work on yourself, and maybe you’re realizing they’re right. You want to show up better in your relationship, but you’re not sure how. Maybe you struggle with communication, shut down during conflict, or feel like no matter what you do, it’s never enough.
This isn’t couples therapy—it’s about helping you understand yourself in relationships, break out of old patterns, and build real connection.
Here’s how I can help:
Let’s make therapy simple.
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Schedule a Free Consultation
I'll answer any questions you have, and together we'll determine if we're a good fit.
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Begin Your
Sessions
Join me each week for sessions where we'll develop the tools you need to overcome your challenges.
Begin your journey to clarity, resilience, and personal growth today.
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Experience Transformation
As we work together, you'll find joy in life again, with improved relationships and a renewed sense of self.